"frank"ly, you're absolutely right! but believe it or not, yours (and mine) is a minority opinion.

I do deserve better. I just don't know that I'll get it. sometimes it just seems like far too much trouble for the payoff, kwim?

M60
H52
D20
M14 yrs
OW-old gf from 1986
bomb-5/18/08
H filed for D-9/10/08
D final 4/24/09
xH remarried (not OW) 2012