Had an open house at the pediatrician office tonight to visit the practice and learn more about the doctors and the office. H and I met there. When we left, he asked if I wanted to go with him to see his newborn neice... of course I said yes, so we drove together to his sister's house and hung out for a bit.
Oh yeah... came home today and saw that H cleaned up the house a bit... vacuumed, emptied the dishwasher, and straightened up some of the baby stuff that was shipped to us!
I thanked him tonight... told him it really was a huge help and i appreciate that he thought of it. It has been extremely hard for me the past week to move around as i usually do.
I'll tell you I had a great pregnancy... no sickness, lots of energy, never felt any different! Then last week, i started to get tired, feet starting to swell as bit at night, low energy spouts, and yet i wake up with the birds... lol. told my doc this week, i finally feel pregnant!
lol! I remember the very beginning and the very end being the hardest part of the pregnancy! Good for your H to help you. Your niece and your son will be pretty close in age- if you choose to hang out with his side of the family after the birth.
me,34 exH,34 S,16 months S:3/31/09-left for OW started DBing 10/09 d final: sometime 10/10 current: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1 met in 2004
I had a pregnancy like your's BD. The last 3-4 weeks were the hardest..uncomfortable to get up and down or change positions, or to walk far or carry heavy loads. He could come any time now, Babydoll... exciting!!
Your WH really sounds like a man-about-house. And very thoughtful on a practical level.
Wonderful he though filing for D was a mistake...
now let's see what patience and time will bring.. stay strong..these last few weeks of pregancy get emotional !
Me 36; H 40 baby born in May M:13, T:15 Bomb (OW): Dec 09 began DBing: Feb WH overseas with OW old: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2027369#Post2027369
I talked to my WH last night about this divorce. He expressed uncertainty. Arghhh! I posted the detail in my thread in Surviving the Big D. It felt good to get some things off my chest since I never said them due to DBing rules.
BD what are you getting your H for Father's Day?
me,34 exH,34 S,16 months S:3/31/09-left for OW started DBing 10/09 d final: sometime 10/10 current: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1 met in 2004
BD, I also started to get really tired at the end! Sleeping from 8:30 pm to 7:30 am, as some of you know. Soon your little boy is going to be here! I'm excited for you because I see how fun it is.
You and I seem to be in sort of similar situations now. Did your H say that he wanted to be friends from the beginning? Mine did. . . It bothers me a bit that he's kind of getting what he wanted! But I don't know how long this arrangement that he and I have will last. Meaning, I don't know when I will change it up for my own sake.
I talked to my WH last night about this divorce. He expressed uncertainty.
Don't you just want to slap them and say are you stupid!!! grow up and own up to your feelings!!! I couldnt believe your WH said that... Well... its obvious he truly doesnt know what he wants... keep living life for you and let him come out of his own mess... you will gain stregnth and power and happiness and then IF you want, you will allow him in your life.
How could one file for D with uncertainty!!! I could never! Why do our WH's think D is an easy solution... or the next step... i swear they do not understand the reality of it!
sometimes I get the urge to bring the D papers to family court myself and dont care if my H lives to regret it for the rest of his life. Its not my problem!
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BD what are you getting your H for Father's Day?
a box of cigars that read "It's a Boy" to hand out at the hospital. he stopped over in the morning... hung out for a while and i made him coffee and we watched a world cup game together. I was extra emotional today. I cried. i know i shouldnt have but you what, Im 9 months pregnant, hormonal, cranky, and a hot mess... and i basically said that i dont see him ever loving me again and that im tired of everything... our whole situation.
Of course now he wants to caress me and say dont cry, or baby first... blah blah blah.
i just think this is so wrong... this picture is so wrong!!!
very emotional... getting really tired and anxious... and really over my own sitch!
I think my H is using me... afraid he is just being nice entirely to get close to the baby and nothing to do with us. I need to accept it. I need to convince myself that I am never going to be together with him. Not now, not ever.
My only focus should be the baby and only the baby.
i wish I could program my brain to think of BABY only!!!
Would help if he didnt text or call or come around! Or be nice!!! I dont have to initiate anything anymore b/c he does... but realizing he is only doing this for his own selfish needs... obviously he like having me in his life as his friend... but not good enough to want to work things out as his W.
Makes me so angry. I was doing good. I have a few good days... i feel invincable... i feel confident and happy and capable of being single and doing this on my own... and then he sucks me in! I realize I am the one to blame! This has been a cycle for the past 2 months... and I am getting off his rollercoaster!
You and I seem to be in sort of similar situations now. Did your H say that he wanted to be friends from the beginning? Mine did. . . It bothers me a bit that he's kind of getting what he wanted!
G, he did say early on he wanted to be friends... I said NO! but then I fall in the trap of allowing him to be there for 'baby things" and that grows into "friends". I am too tired of trying to keep up with his craziness! He obviously is very very very very confused and doesnt know what he wants! I would rather him cut me off completely and say i will never love you again and i am so confident in that, than to do what he is doing!
I said to H I dont like being friends, he said dont worry thats not whats happening... but....
