My UFO (unbelievably fabulous observations)

[Gardener]

hm,

I was never any good at db'ing...ask any of the old timers. xH left and never looked back, never waffled, never left the door open even a crack, so nothing I did in those early days had any effect at all. and after 7-8 months, I let go because it clearly wasn't moving. it wasn't MLC after all, it was an exit affair, he wanted out and wanted to be able to lay the blame on me. so...no db'ing had any effect at all. I'm as new to it as anyone else, really.

I hear ya. My exact sane sitch/DBing experience. Except the affair part. She was already long gone. Period.