No, I didn't want to be a divorced person. I preferred being happily married.
yeah, my wah is truly adamant that d is the way to happiness. he can't stand that i am entitled to half of everything. money is more important than a best friend. a trusted friend.
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Do you mean between me and your H?
yes. you and my h were/are the was.
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I picked up your thread b/c I saw similarities between your relationship with your inlaws and my relationship with my inlaws. I have learned valuable lessons during my 20+ year interaction with my inlaws, and wanted to share that with you.
it's too late. i no longer have a relationship with my inlaws. to me, they are strangers now. there is no contact. i do not send birthday cards or christmas cards. and it's funny. there was no huge fight between us. as soon as their son asked for a d, everything changed. it became me vs. them.
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I also saw some similarities btwn your H and mine in terms of how they dealt with their parents. Of course, the crowning difference between them is that my H changed the unhealthy balance with his parents in favor of healing our marriage. Had he not been willing to make that change, I would not have been able to come back.
he never saw me as being more important than them. he no longer feels anything towards me but hatred because i have chosen to protect myself against a d that he asked for.
what was i supposed to do? give in and lose everything that i put into the last 6 years together? protecting myself is justification for d-ing me?
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I "see" a young woman who is desperate to be a member of an unhealthy family. I thought it might be helpful if you considered the ramifications of that.
often times, i don't know what i want. i want my h back. or do i? it makes me sad. when i'm sad i tend to babble and write a lot. i've started writing my story in my blog. i want others to know, i didn't ask for it.
