Historically, I have had a problem with patience, especially where other people are concerned. I fully admit that. I am conscious of that weakness and have honestly been trying to work on it. I really feel I've come a long way fortunately.
But not so much where xW is concerned. Or at least not as much as I would like. I've been praying to God to help me learn patience, even with her. But that's sort of a foolish wish, as the way God teaches us about patience is by giving us things to suffer for -- and with my former spouse I get suffering out the yin-yang.
But I can see it has forced me to build my resistance to these stresses, and so when I deal with others I am more calm and reserved than I might have otherwise been had I not been tempered by these greater sources of suffering. I still have a long, long way to go.
Karen, I can see how great your patience is and it is truly inspiring.