Historically, I have had a problem with patience, especially where other people are concerned. I fully admit that. I am conscious of that weakness and have honestly been trying to work on it. I really feel I've come a long way fortunately.

But not so much where xW is concerned. Or at least not as much as I would like. I've been praying to God to help me learn patience, even with her. But that's sort of a foolish wish, as the way God teaches us about patience is by giving us things to suffer for -- and with my former spouse I get suffering out the yin-yang.

But I can see it has forced me to build my resistance to these stresses, and so when I deal with others I am more calm and reserved than I might have otherwise been had I not been tempered by these greater sources of suffering. I still have a long, long way to go.

Karen, I can see how great your patience is and it is truly inspiring.



Me: 49
WAW: 47
S11, S7
Years Married/Together: 17/18
Bomb: 6/15/07
Separation: 7/6/07
D: 4/3/09

Real love is a decision.
Marriage is a commitment.