She specifically said "Every day that I don't talk to him I just get angrier and angrier at you. I can't believe you took a friend away from me. You should have come to me FIRST. I was the one that initiated all the sex chat. I can NEVEr trust you again".
But keeping her from dating, ESPECIALLY from meeting guys her friends set her up with is going to be hard. I mean for all I know when she's out somewhere, she could be on a date with one of her friends' buddies, and next thing I know they click and I am back to square 1.
You are right, I do let her get to me, but I do not OUTWARDLY show it. But I am getting BETTER at distancing myself. It just takes time.
I REPEATEDLY tell myself in front of her "Control your emotions and don't let them control YOU". I stay CALM and say what was told to me.
I then leave the conversation at a time of my choosing, and let my emotions out PRIVATELY. I feel them, and then let them go. I read divorce remedy, I remind myself not to lose hope, and to not believe anything I hear and half of what I see.
All SHE sees is a calm, level-headed person who is doing things he never has before. And right now it is making her madder than I have ever seen.
At least your not "teaching" her that its OK, like many of us. Bravo. Her feelings are inverted, those anger feelings should be feelings of love for you. The same amount of anger should be the same amount of attraction and love to you.
The affair messed it up. Now how to get her flipped back. Maybe you can take her out of town on a weekend getaway or something and blow her mind.
