Actually, many years ago, they were referred to as "pod people" in the alien world. They do become totally alien to us because they are exposing their exact opposites.
Even though he may marry to the ow, you still would like to better understand the flipping of the switch. Even though my xh married the ow, it was very helpful to understand some of what he did during that period of his life.
Knowledge is power and the more you learn, the more you will better understand the crisis.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.