Just Confronted - A Litttle Confused

[Quicksilver264]

I get the withdrawal:


She specifically said "Every day that I don't talk to him I just get angrier and angrier at you. I can't believe you took a friend away from me. You should have come to me FIRST. I was the one that initiated all the sex chat. I can NEVEr trust you again".

But keeping her from dating, ESPECIALLY from meeting guys her friends set her up with is going to be hard. I mean for all I know when she's out somewhere, she could be on a date with one of her friends' buddies, and next thing I know they click and I am back to square 1.

You are right, I do let her get to me, but I do not OUTWARDLY show it. But I am getting BETTER at distancing myself. It just takes time.

I REPEATEDLY tell myself in front of her "Control your emotions and don't let them control YOU". I stay CALM and say what was told to me.

I then leave the conversation at a time of my choosing, and let my emotions out PRIVATELY. I feel them, and then let them go. I read divorce remedy, I remind myself not to lose hope, and to not believe anything I hear and half of what I see.


All SHE sees is a calm, level-headed person who is doing things he never has before. And right now it is making her madder than I have ever seen.