THE OW CONTACTED ME - WHAT??

[lea74]

My S7 told me this evening that the OW had a chat with my sons and told them that I had been lying to my sons and had also been really mean to my XH and OW. This really got me mad!! How dare she speak to my sons about me.

He also mentioned that she asked them which word they felt comfortable with describing me when saying that I was being mean. She gave them options such as mean, digusting, etc etc.

I couldnt unfortunately hide my shock at this and told my sons I hadnt lied to them and that I didnt understand how I had been mean.

Anyway I did confess that I had lied in the beginning based on a request from my H then, that for the first 3 months we didnt tell them he had moved out but was rather working away from home. I was never comfortable with lying to them about this and told them that I was sorry I lied but we did it for them. This has been the only lie I have told them. In fact I kept getting told off by my XH that I am being too honest with them and telling them too much.

Any suggestions on how I deal with this. It is really causing my S7 alot of stress and he is constantly in the middle.