My game has changed from WAW to EA/PA HELP!!

[Allen A]

Dude, you need to stop negotiating with addicts... it does NOT help your situation...

[Greek]

Do I wait for her to bring up the texts or do I wait til Calla is occupied and 'hit her between the eyes" with the script?

When Calla is occupied:
CD to W: "You have not been behaving in the best interest of this family, so to protect myself and my family, I am going to begin interviewing lawyers tomorrow. I will talk with you about recent events, but after I obtain legal counsel, all exchanges will go through the lawyer. Would you like to talk with me or my lawyer?"

If she wants to talk, tell her you will meet her for lunch tomorrow to discuss b/c you will not have Calla within earshot of any of it.

Greek

[Allen A]

Yup, Greek's got it right, though I don't know about meeting in person.. I prefer to have this stuff written down... Your wife is going to take advantage of how unstable you are right now and you will make a lot of mistakes cause you don't have time to think of a GOOD response... I say keep it in writing and no lunch in person.. its a bad idea

[CD Bear]

Thanks, everyone.

I think I have the basic scripts and story lines.

Thanks, AA for the "don't negotiuate with an addict'. I'll keep that front and center.

And all along she said 'fair' divorce and 'all about Calla's interest'

Ya, right. And now I'm being forced to hire a lawyer and spend more family resources on other stupidity and selfishness.

[Allen A]

CD, you said it.. You should do what you can to persuade her family to talk her down from the clouds... you can't do this on your own...

[CD Bear]

Here we go again
She texts and then calls (I don't answer) about what area of town I'm in. "Can I meet you afetr what you're doing so X and Y (cousins) can see Calla?" She suggests a halway point.

I said. "6 at home. I was pretty clear."

She just texted again. haven't looked. I have two hours left. These cousins don't fly out til tomorrow. How comwe she can't get Calla at 6 and go back to her mom's? Other plans?

Makes me mental. She's all about rearranging my stuff for her. I'm so done.

[CD Bear]

Now she says
'ok. Let's sign all those papers.
I got the "real" pkg so we can fill it out properly.
I'll be there at 6"

I said'OK".

HELP please.

[CD Bear]

My guess? She's not running the show and thinks this will push me into apologizing and crying. Not gonna happen.
At this point, I need out more than she wants out.

[Allen A]

Just stand your ground on not wanting divorce... The first chapter of divorce remedy explains IN DETAIL the dangers adn myths of divorce.. read up on first chapter of DR

You wife is trying to manipulate you, just tell her NO and you will do what YOU THINK is BEST for the WHOLE FAMILY when you have had time to RESEARCH everything THOROUGHLY ...

You will NOT rush INTO ANYTHING or be BULLIED into anything and risk your childs welfare...

End the convo

[CD Bear]

I will be clear that I don't want divorce as it is actually not best for ANYONE in the family, including her.

However, if you are not willing to participate in the marriage and wish to spend your time, family resources and affections on an affair then you have made your choice.

I will "consider" the paper over the next couple of days and let you know when I have my decision. A formal agreement will put an end to this "Limbo land" and the reality and consequences of her bhvr will be clearer to her.

Anything else I should say, know or do?