WAH and LBW separated and dark

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greek - i don't want to make you re-live those years of turmoil. but i dare ask. what was going through your head when you walked out? can you honestly tell me that d was what you wanted?

No, I didn't want to be a divorced person. I preferred being happily married.

Going through my head when I left was that it would be awful to leave; upsetting to my children's lives; disappointing to my parents and siblings; leaving a beautiful and comfortable home for a spare lifestyle; tearing myself away from H whom I had lived with longer than I'd lived with my own parents...but staying was worse.

I didn't "want" to divorce. But I was unwilling to give up the rest of my life to the marriage we had. I got myself out.

greek? what are the similiarities?

Do you mean between me and your H? Or between your sitch with your inlaws and mine?

I do not know if your H and I, as walk-aways, are similar.

I picked up your thread b/c I saw similarities between your relationship with your inlaws and my relationship with my inlaws. I have learned valuable lessons during my 20+ year interaction with my inlaws, and wanted to share that with you.

I also saw some similarities btwn your H and mine in terms of how they dealt with their parents. Of course, the crowning difference between them is that my H changed the unhealthy balance with his parents in favor of healing our marriage. Had he not been willing to make that change, I would not have been able to come back.

greek, what did you "see" in my thread?

Read above.

I "see" a young woman who is desperate to be a member of an unhealthy family. I thought it might be helpful if you considered the ramifications of that.

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