Thank you so much snodderly. Even writing it all out just now has helped me so much to both get more understanding and come to terms with the compassion you just spoke of. I truly love this man, but my love for him has changed through this. I know somewhere in me is the romantic love I always had for him, but now the love I have is what I can only describe as a Christian love. I feel sorry for him, I want to help him and I really want to see him become the wonderful man I know he can be. (I know everyone says you can't help them, but you can. Giving them space and loving from a distance, treating them kindly and moving forward with your life without bitterness - those are all loving actions that do DO help them, I'm convinced. If you do not give them these things - they will either run away or stay stuck, and therefore since you can negatively affect them, it only stands to reason that you can positively affect them also.)
Peace all. Gonna relax a little more and then take the kids out for some fun. You all do the same.
Oh, and happy father's day to all you great dads out there.
