H's family is the poster child for dysfunctional. His mom died of cancer when he was 4, not six months later the new step-mom was already moved in. Her and H's father were raging alcoholics. If you can think of a type of abuse, it happened in H's family, a lot of it to him as well as his siblings. Verbal, mental, physical, emotional, sexual. Even H's sister has said to me how messed up H is from the way he grew up. He went to a therapist for one or two visits and was told he has ADHD and PTSD. Alos, it was around the time DS hit the age where H has his earliest memories of abuse from that H started to really pull away and talk about separating. Our marriage was already strained from the birth of our son, so this just made it even easier for H to think walking away was the best answer. When H's father died about six months before it really got bad, H showed no emotion. He didn't cry, didn't get angry, nothing. And as soon as his father was buried he cut off any and all contact with his step-mother. So the opportunity to talk with his parents to try and heal the damage from his childhood doesn't exist. Not that his father or step-mother even will admit to giving him a bad childhood. In their memories they did the best they could what with having to raise 9 kids. And DS is the baby, so according to his siblings he got the worst of the abuse.
So now, I feel more confident that H is suffering a mid-life crisis, and that OW is simply a way to try and make himself feel better, but it won't last for good.
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