Confused today...........

Hearing from ALOT of people that time is working against me, ESPECIALLY with the fact that she is with her EX. Also hearing that once their relationship goes physical ( if it hasnt already) that that is IT for us, because she will have " given herself " to him. Then I hear that the majority of rebound relationships dont work, something I've heard before.

Then I hear and see people on this site that sometimes have to go a year or more, often times with infidelity included in the process and STILL manage to reconcile their R's.

HELP ??????