My game has changed from WAW to EA/PA HELP!!

[twolf]

From my stich the O/M was coaching my wife. They will sat and do stuff to hurt you and this is one of them.

And to your quetion last night I did the LRT and it got me no where it just made things worse.

[CD Bear]

Thanks.
So what did you do when the LRT when sideways? is that how you got involved on the board?

Cause it's quite obvious that my LRT was either too late; too cautious; and/or too inconsistent to stop anythinh from changing here. IMO, where I thought she might have been displaying little good things, it may in fact have been "smoke" to blind me.

[Greek]

Next items up will be getting her to talk face to face in order to do the three objectives.
Issues-
It is supposed to be W's week as primary care for Calla. Obviuosly, I don't want my daughter dragged all over the place in order for W to have her "man-hating, b#tch sessions"

Probably can't do a thing about that.

How do I approach that and force her "to the table?"

CD to W: "You have not been behaving in the best interest of this family, so to protect myself and my family, I am going to begin interviewing lawyers Monday. I will talk with you now about recent events, but after I obtain legal counsel, all exchanges will go through the lawyer. Would you like to talk with me or my lawyer?"

Or something like that?
Greek

PS - GUARD this site! You would not want her to read your strategies!

[Greek]

Thanks.
So what did you do when the LRT when sideways? is that how you got involved on the board?

Cause it's quite obvious that my LRT was either too late; too cautious; and/or too inconsistent to stop anythinh from changing here. IMO, where I thought she might have been displaying little good things, it may in fact have been "smoke" to blind me.

Too soon to tell, CD. Don't give up.
Greek

[CD Bear]

This site is on my laptop; password protected and changed.
There are no DB books in the house to lead her here.

She texted (after the last one about calling her mom)
OK.

Then:

That's fine. I will be there to switch later.

I'm having trouble enjoying my day with my daughter while trying to keep up with this AND keep my brain solid.

I told my parents I was having a tough day (I told them about the D-bomb, obviously, and that is was unlikely W would be attending their 50thAnniv on July 2.

Dad suggested I come over there with Calla and relax.

Thoughts? I don't want to vacate the house as she didn't say "when" she'd be back. Should I ask? We did discuss times on Thursday night.

But I'm a little frazzled as this is happening really quickly.

[Greek]

Why not go to your parents' and ENJOY your day. You could send her a matter of fact text that the 'switch' can happen at your parents' house or she can tell you what time she'll be home and you'll meet her with Calla there and then.

I really think you should go spend the day with your folks. You need to recharge and refresh and get some space away from this.
Greek

[twolf]

I read them books and followed them to a T. When she started taking O/M around her side of the family and told every one that i was the one having an affair on her and that they did not start seeing each other till after she found this out.

I new their was more i had to do then i found this site and Allens posts on exposing it. Thats when i took my balls out of her purse and put them back into my pants.


They started telling her that they supported her, and they did not know the truth.

This man was a freind of the family he was at our wedding.

Everone belived sence they were freinds sence she was 15 and he was allways their that thats all they were freinds.

In the book it says dont talk about the A and i did not even mention it to any one.

Butt when her and the O/M were trying to make it public and get support for it and make me look like the bad guy I exposed it for the lies that it was.

I dont sqirm anymore i stand my ground if a divorce is what she want and she will get it butt i will allways belive in my family and marrige.

The bad part is the script that WAW have and rewriting history and the things that they belive to justafi what they are doing.

[Four_More_Years]

Why not go to your parents' and ENJOY your day. You could send her a matter of fact text that the 'switch' can happen at your parents' house or she can tell you what time she'll be home and you'll meet her with Calla there and then.

I really think you should go spend the day with your folks. You need to recharge and refresh and get some space away from this.
Greek

Totally agree, except for letting her decide when she's coming back. I think more along the lines of "you can come to my parents or this is when I'll be back home." Provided he chooses a reasonable time to be there, not midnight just for spitefulness or some such. Just seems to me like she's jerking him around so much that letting her make the decision of when gives her too much control still.

[CD Bear]

Unlike what I expected, she texted to say she would come to switch "right after dinner'. Like 6 or 7. I expected closer to 9 as that is her usual thing when she's "off".

So, she could either leave again; or stay.

I have to get in the right mindset. I'm getting nervous and it's 4 hours away yet.

Do I wait for her to bring up the texts or do I wait til Calla is occupied and 'hit her between the eyes" with the script?

[CD Bear]

I wish I had seen this sooner as this is a great idea. But I've agreed to 6 pm.