I tried, I changed, but still am getting divorced!

[newmama]

Timeheals, sorry that I snapped at you but for some reason the way you worded your first warning about dating on the rebound made it sound like I have no discernment and go after jerks like my stbxH...but your second post was much more tactful. thanks.

Citygirl-I am glad you understand that our Hs are being selfish and acting badly but are not evil (just like I hate to say that I know OW is not EVeeel but it makes me feel better to think she is). At this point, would you prefer to be divorced from your H instead of having to wait until November? Sorry to hear you have Lupus. I learned a little about that autoimmune disease when I was diagnosed with Rheumatoid Arthritis. I hope you have some good treatment/management in place to help you!

And no worries about staying in the doorway with stbxh! He has to use the bathroom but next week, he can probably hold it for the 20 minutes it will take for him to go "home." I will have no qualms explaining to him that I need him to just stay at the door.

Piano, BD and Gatsby- thanks for checking on me still on my thread over here! I am hanging in there but have realized I need to slooooow down my expectations big time. What I mean is that I truly have to go back to the way I was earlier in this ordeal (when in limbo) where I focused on getting through the day.

It's like "today I will do this with S, make this for lunch and dinner, and do some laundry." I am not going to busy myself too much with filling my social calendar. One activity per week is enough at this time. Need to focus on "healing and dealing" with my reality.