It doesn't work in a straight line, FFH. "Fits and starts" is more the way they "snap out of it," if in fact they do.
Waywards -- especially wayward women -- are like those circus acts that used to come out on the old Ed Sullivan Show, or Bozo's Circus. Remember the guy that would try to keep multlple plates spinning, on multiple sticks? Well, a wayward woman will have two (or more) plates spinning -- her husband, and OM. When she feels one slowing down, and starting to wobble (like she's losing you), will will pay it attention to get it spinning fast and straight again. This "attention" can take the form of being nice, sending chatting TMs, initiating sex, or even negative attention like an angry outburst meant to control you if you've shown a history of being intimidated by such behavior.
