"Sometimes I do things on purpose to see how you will react to them."
This is what I was talking about in your previous thread. This, to me, is just a byproduct of your previous controlling behavior. She's basically rebelling and making a point to push your buttons so she can stand up to you. I think you're doing well. Don't engage her in an argument over this. Continue to affirm that you really want a better partnership and communication in the future. I personally think you're out of the woods. I would continue to treat her well and with respect and continue to require her to do the same.
Thanks for the reply.
If I react then W proves a point if I don't react then our communication suffers.
I don't think this is totally true. What I mean is don't act negatively or engage in a power struggle. You were in a relationship with an unhealthy balance of power, now, because she threatened to leave, the balance of power has shifted. Everything you say should reflect your desire for equality.
