From the end.. spring new beginnings

[Bridgestone]

well,
It's Father's Day and D!5 is spending it with me.

I offered many times for XH to drive up here & spend the week-end with her and then take her back with him to his home state for his parents anniversary celebration next weekend.

He originally agreed to that about 2 months ago when we were discussing summertime plans and then suddenly about 6 weeks ago.. he changed them.

"you can keep her that week-end & I'll come get her on Monday, that way you have more time with her, I have to work because of Mom & Dad's thing the following week-end"

WTF??? Coming from the man who was texting me 20x a day, how hurt he was, how sorry he was he caused all this, & how much he missed his kids the first week she was up here this summer?

To be honest, I was like fine.. you don't want to see her after 2.5 weeks....great! I get more time with my daughter.

Then the reasons why he wasn't coming up this week-end, funny how they seem to do that isn't it?

Last week-end he was on the Mississippi river, partying with friends so he had traded work week-ends to do that...so he had to work this week-end to get last week-end off..

and he went to a concert last night with the same friends.. ironically it poured rain on them about 1/2 way through the concert & it was shut down.. karma's a bitch

I guess it is hard with your kid Father's Day , when you are out partying 600 miles away until past midnight the night before.

I thanked him for making the reasons behind his choices clear. Again it reiterates to me his values and where he places them. It pissed him off.. too F"ing bad.... I know it's hard to hear the truth.

D15 asked why he wasn't coming up.. I told her.

Your dad made the choice to trade week-ends to work.. he didn't want to work last weekend so he traded it for this week-end instead.

Her response.. but he was on the River last week-end with XYZ friends.? sounding puzzled..

My response... Yes, yes he was.. and he has to work now this week-end instead.

Silence.

I feel for her..

I mean he has EVERY right to be out having a good time. But making choices such that you deliberately are NOT with your kid on Father's Day??

sigh...

So, we are going to see harness racing today and a picnic. Saw ToyStory 3 last night (cute movie).. then game night.

He should be here sometime tomorrow... and I am a bit anxious about that.. He has not been up here on "my turf" for 10 months.

In other news, I take possession of my new house on Wednesday and have some things to iron out aobut it before that happens, but all in all.. life is good.

Peace
Bridge