THE OW CONTACTED ME - WHAT??

[BeingMe]

Lea, I don't think I have posted to you before, but I just thought I would give you something to think about ....

This OW may think she can replace you, but she cannot .... she can never share the moment of giving birth to your children with your WAH. It is something special in time, that no amount of harassing, flaunting herself in front of your house, or anything, will ever take away from you. YOU are your son's mother. She can only ever be the STEP-mother. They are the fruit of your and their father's love. Don't ever forget that. He may've allowed himself to foolishly ruin the family that your sons deserve, but do not allow them to ruin the joy you have in being their mother. Be strong. If she is talking to them on the phone, tell them to say "bye-bye now, time to sleep", in a nice voice. Try and find the courage to walk your sons to the car before she even has a chance to get to your door. YOU are handing them over to their father, not this person. Your sons will notice the power play, so you must be strong for them. Ignore her because she has no power over you, except the power you give to her ... she may be fooling your WAH, but I bet if she ever tries to harm your sons, he will wake up, so at least you know that they are safe, and that is the only power she can ever have, but it will not be deployed because she will either lose your WAH, or you will have a good excuse to get full custody.

Look after yourself. Detach your feelings from your WAH. He is gone (maybe forever, maybe not), but your sons need you now, more than ever. They need you to show them that you are strong and brave, even if you don't feel it.

Good job on not responding to her emails, and getting a lawyer involved. You have shown her, I think, that she isn't getting away with it all. Perhaps you can use it as another reason to get full custody, if you can prove she is trying to alienate your sons against you.

Take care.