My game has changed from WAW to EA/PA HELP!!

[twolf]

She is taking the spot light off her by talking about daughter.

I would say our family never feels whole when we are not all here. She misses mommy by daddys side.
I dont know how every one else thinks butt i belive in making them feel shame and guilt and let eat eat away at them.


You know your wife best.

[Greek]

Hey - we just got in and read right up on what's going on. We think that she is 'fishing' for more info before she really responds. In other words, if she really wanted to know what you meant...and had nothing to fear....she would just call you. But she is very vague. Do not respond to anything. Let is sit there.
Greek

[CD Bear]

I tend to agree she is fishing. And the D question is also to get a response. Why would a two year old not be sleeping at 10:45 pm?

[Greek]

Take a melatonin and call it a night. Let her sit up and worry. You need your rest, CD.
Greek

[twolf]

That is true .....

Or you can say i cant wait to use them things that you bought that i seen in your truck...


I remember my wife asking me if i went some where one time and if i seen anything. I had no clue about what she was talking about butt lett me tell you this i look back and i think if i only new now what i didnt know then i would of been ahead of the game.She was fishing for info .


Remember some of these women want to get caught.


You need to ask Allen or Puppy

[CD Bear]

Greek/Coach-
did you see my comment tp PDT a few back about needing to learn "the script". I'm guessing I should get the words and confidence/conviction nailed before she gets home tomorrow.

[Greek]

Hi PDT-
On the other thread in Necomers, Coach alluded to a script about her choices, boundaries, consequences, etc.

ie "to get it right you have to be able to let her go (detach) and this requires confidence on your part. You and your family deserve your wife's complete attention. How you say it is with conviction that she is free to choose how she behaves and that her choice has consequences.

She chooses you she can stay.

She wants to spend her time, money, affection, energy and family resources with another man than she can go.

You have to be able to wrap your head around this to say it with conviction, confidence, composure and compassion. Your wife will test your conviction on this.

She will respect you for standing up for yourself, your family and fighting for her. she won't respect you if you are a doormat and she can push you around. We will give you the script to say to her. You have to buy into this or you won't get a second chance. Make sense?"

I might want to start learning that one now, eh?

CD, Are you referring to the above?

If so, yes, it will help you to grasp this idea of laying down the boundary for her of what is acceptable and what will not be tolerated by you on behalf of your family.

Greek

[elvencat]

Why would a two year old not be sleeping at 10:45 pm?

Sorry, I know your sitch is serious, but I had to laugh at this.. my three yr old sleeps from about 1:30 am to 12:30 p.m. Her days are skewed and have been since practically birth... so we are in shock if DD is asleep that early.

And those hours are actually working backwards towards a more normal sleep cycle!

Sorry, again.. just had to laugh.

On a serious note: yes, I agree, no 'average' 2 yr old would be awake at that time and she's fishing and trying to move focus from her.

[twolf]

I read it and that was spot on just sit back tonight, you will find the courage to get their belive me.

[CD Bear]

Yep> I just presumed there would be more to grasp than that.
I 'm figuring she coud have several reponses and/or reactions so I'd like to prepare for them