Divorce in 1 month Help with exposing please need

[Allen A]

Allen ... one more qestion when the stbxw tells me i left you and not our family what should my reply be?

You, me, and our son is "the family"... you are threatening to split that up into a big ugly mess

[Allen A]

TWolf there are TONS of articles on the www explaining how divorce harms children... you can print some of them up and recite the key points to her...

She is implying that her divorce won't affect your son, only you.. which is not the case... divorce harms children

Did you read the first chapter of divorce remedy? The divorce myth?

Read that again and then recite the key points to your wife

[twolf]

Ohh she tells me that she would of been happer if her parents would of divorced when she was a kid that her mom would of been happer .

She says that she is doing this for our son that she would of be came un happy at some point and would become bitter and ended up being a bad mother.

If you listen to her mom she is still in love with her dad and allways talks about how much fun they had.


Butt if you was to ask her about it diffrent story.

[CD Bear]

Jeez, 2W!
My sitch slowed for the night so I thought I'd see where you were coming from.
I see we're both having some fun.

I ihope you have found the little tidbits of advice and encouragement on my thread as helpful as I have found them to be on yours.

We have to figh the good fight and be the adults in our families.

I apparently have two kids; a two year old and a 19 year old (W- based on bhvr and 'stories')

[twolf]

Its been a battle for shure

[Allen A]

Just read the first chapter of Divorce Remedy TWolf, your wife does not know what she's talking about... A lot of time and money has been put into studying the impact of divorce on children and their parents and the results are not pretty... It's survivable, but the conclusion is that staying togther does a lot less damage.. IF the couple can find the MATURITY to make the marriage a healthy one... Your wife just assumes it will be more of the same... so keep setting an adult example for her to follow and to show her (not tell her, but SHOW her) that you are a husband, a father, and most important... An adult...

[twolf]

Whats funny Allen before the exposeure we were talking she was asking me for favors and sending me pict of the son. We were telling each other things.

Butt sence the total bitch mode.

She firmly belives that with all of the divorce in america that son will be in the status of over 50% of american kids.

Even the damn mediator thinks the same [censored].

Im not dealing with a bunch of people who are very intelagent. MIl STBXW FIL2 GMIL STBXW freinds. and har living a hundred miles away its hard to keep up.

[Allen A]

Read the first chapter of divorce remedy TWolf, MWD explains the impact of divorce quite clearly in there...

The mediator is NOT a child psychologist... So why entrust your SON's mental health in the hands of a damn LAWYER?

50% of the american kids are also MISERABLE

Your wife is not doing any research... I suggest YOU DO IT and the you can speak intelligently, reference psychologists, research studies, etc and they CAN'T

[twolf]

Ok stbxw texted me at 12 pm what time are we meeting to pick up son. Did not reply it has been 5 pm for the last six months.

I waited two hours to reply having a good time with son 2.


I texted her back are you in a hurry to get him back today.

Her reply does 5.30 work for you.

I texted that is not what i asked.

Her text yes im in a hurry.

I texted back ok thats fine 5.00 pm will be fine. I will make shure that he is their have a nice day.

Then she texted wy do you ask, I told her me and son are having fun i would like to keep him till monday seeing that it is fathers day.

She then texted me ask what you want next time. Ive been flexible and you wait till the last minute to try to change plans . I will be at the meeting spot at 5.30.I said now the time is 5.00 pm. She cant cake eat when she knows the time is 5.00 pm and then say that she is the one flexiable.

Not 5.30.

Then i sent her a text i guess i did not know how to express my self that me and son were having fun on fathers day and i did not want it to end butt i kind of see your point of veiw. As well and i will not get into an agrgument over this. after all i gave him to you when mothers day weekend when it was on my weekend.

Then she texted who will i be meeting no reply on my part because she knows it is allways me on sundays.


I did not let her drag me into a fight................................. Day one.

I will be the bigger person she is the one saying that she is flexible.

I have two more months of this ..................................

[Allen A]

Just keep showing her how an adult behaves... It will start to wear her down...

Question : Did your mediator even SUGGEST you consider exploring family therapy at all before pursuing divorce?

That IS his JOB... they WILL DO that if they are doing their job... I get the impression your mediator is just a Dufus...

Next time your mediator tries to tell you how divorce impacts children interrupt him :


ARE YOU A CHILD PSYCHOLOGIST or a MEDIATOR?

You can't be both...

Last time I checked you were NOT a child psychologist and your opinion on that subject is NOT a professional one, NOR is your INPUT on subjects that aren't in your area of expertise.... Do you see ME giving you Financial Advice? No, that's because I ain't a stockbroker...