The saga continues

[OfficerInNeed]

Major exposure today that could be open to interpenetration.

I sat and thought about our sitch some today while W was at work. I thought about how recently W uses sounds to communicate with me rather than words sometimes. I was encouraged to call W out whenever she did this, and I did for the most part expressing how I found it disrespectful and not healthy for a relationship. I would wait for the opportunity for me to call my W out on the way she spoke to me or a lack thereof, that it began to consume me, I started to take it very personal. I think I said it enough times at this point for my W to know the point I was making and now it is up to her to make the change, I will just have to "stomach" it for now and if it starts to get worse then call her out on it (It is not as bad as it use to be)


W came home from work, she told me a few stories about things that happened at work, then W went upstairs and I remained downstairs continuing my home repairs.

W and I had a few conversations that went south quick so rather than have the situation escalate I walked away.

W and I had planned to go out to the town she grew up where they were filming an independent horror film and see what it was all about.

On the way out there W wanted to stop by and see FIL who was working on the house my W will be moving into (so she said in the past). FIL greeted us with smiles and showed us what he had done. Took W and I up to "her apartment" to show off a rug he purchased. W commented on the rug but did not hint that she would be the one living there. FIL nor W said made any implications about W moving there.

Eventually we all went down to the movie set where we stood and watched for a little bit.

And then it happened....

Female co-worker of my W comes walking by and greets my W, W then introduces me to her. Co-worker walks away but eventually makes her way back over then she said to me "So are you exciting about moving soon?" I looked at this woman with a extremely questionable face without replying then I looked over and my W who was shaking her head 'NO' to co-worker and then co-worker asked "So you guys are not moving?" W just kept shaking her head no and co-worker then said "Darn that stinks I was looking forward to car pooling to work"

Once co-worker walked away all I could do is smile and look straight ahead.

W then said "She must had thought we were moving when I told her I was moving a while back" then went on to say "I asked her how long it took for her to get to work from out here and she came up with the idea of car pooling ect.."

After W did not say anything about moving out she just carried on as if that convo did not happen.

a few min later W TOLD me to go take a picture and I looked at her...W then said PLEASE with a pissy attitude. SO I then handed back the camera. W said "I am not a little kid, I don't need to be told what to say" I replied "It is not my intention to tell you what you should or should not say, we are adults and WE as adults should demonstrate common courtesy to one another." W then replies "Sometimes I do things on purpose to see how you will react to them."

After she said that (which I consider a slip up on her part) I got a new perspective on our sitch.

W and I headed home and I said "I am not talking down to you, I just think we can have more enjoyable conversations and greater interactions if we just learned to communicate with each other better" W said nothing in return, point made and I left it at that.

We got home had descent conversations and W went to bed.