My other thread in the A section has died down. After battling a second wave of an EA (same OM) I felt it was now appropriate to move my sitch her again (hopefully for the last time).
I won't go much into the back story but rather I want to point out progress made since our sitch began and where we are today.
THEN: W barely spoke to me and would come home from work and sleep all day til I left for work. NOW: W and I interact more and have conversations.
THEN: W did not want to do anything with me, would much rather stay at home and do nothing or have nothing to do with me. NOW: W has come around more recently, we do things together often and go places.
THEN: W would threaten nearly everyday that one day she is leaving and separation and divorce is inevitable NOW: W does not threaten. W talks and does as if she is staying but has provided no affirmation.
When our sitch began W wanted to have nothing to do with our marriage that as far as she was concerned "It's already over" and to her "Marriage is nothing more than a piece of paper"
Two weeks ago W approached me about having a house warming/birthday party (for/at the house she intends to leave) for her and invite all of her family (but just her family). For the past two weeks I have witnessed my W take more initiative and invest time and money into our home than she has since we first purchased our home.
In the past two weeks I have witnessed W warm up to the thought of our marriage. Up to this point W did not want to remember anything to do with our marriage to her it was all a "mistake." W has now pulled out decor, cards, gifts from our wedding. Some of which she has put up on shelves in our home. W has not fully opened up but she has more so than ever before during our sitch.
I know it can have everything to do with the party we are planning and I am not overlooking that possibility, so if this is some "game" she is playing she is doing a great job at it but then again why would she invest the time, effort and money just to still walk out the door?
In the past if I made any future reference about our home,M, R with the assumption that W and I would still be together W would immediately dismiss the comment and make sure I knew she was still plan on leaving. For the past few weeks we have had conversations that assumed a future between us with no such negative comments
We have come a long way in our sitch in the past 5 months but there still is a lot of uncertainty and many areas of our R that need improvement especially in the communication department.
