That's my hope is that this affair has run its course... SO a gentler approach may be enough... It's a lot easier to beat an affair once it's lost its luster...
Many here are dealing with affairs that are still red hot addictive... Yours I don't think this is the case...
If OW IS leaving in six months she may already be psychologically detaching in order to make her exit a smooth one...
I know you dont' want to hear this but she's not leaving the FIELD, just that university... There will be conferences etc... I think she knows she can't end things REALLY ugly with him or she is burning her bridges... And she's shrewd enough not to do that...
She may very well WANT him to want to come back and is manipulating him into thinking it will be HIS IDEA... That's my guess at this point... SHe has to figure out how to get rid of him now that she's almost done with him... Get rid of him in a way that does NOT do damage to her long term career...
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I am reading larry's approach and its looking more or less like MWD's, but with a lot more direct guidance and example... I don't doubt MWD's approach WILL WORK, BUT... Her approach is to WAIT OUT the affair... allow it to RUN its COURSE... I think that's awfully risky... Which is why I advocate ripping the band aid off in one fell swoop early on...
Exposure in your case hasn't been done yet... Not in my opinion, but I don't think it will be needed... From what I've been reading it looks like the affair will run its ugly course and you have the resilience to wait it out... Some people don't.. Or the risk is too great... I don't think there's a risk of OW running off with your Husband... I hoenstly don't think she wants him long term...
