She went nuts. one thing led to another, we had a long and contensous phone call that ended with me saying i'm not moving out. She replied that she wants a divorce now and she just texted me that she is going to move to her dads ASAP. She stated over and over that we are done and there is no changing that. She dosen't love me and has not for a long time. This will destroy my kids. My daughter has said that she want's to stay with her mom.
Better:
1. She "goes nuts."
2. You say "I'm not going to have a conversation with you if you're going to shout at me, and be disrespectful. Let me know when you've calmed down, and are ready to discuss this like mature adults, and we can continue our conversation. I have to go (INSERT "GAL" ACTIVITY HERE)."
She laid a trap for you, and you fell right into it. It's classic affair "script" -- pick a fight over something minor, and then blame the entire marriage's problems (and half of Europe's and the Middle East, and the oil spill) on YOU.
Refuse to engage with her when she's rude or disrespectful. It takes two to have an argument.
