Have you ever read the resources in the MLC forum? Have you wondered if your H is in MLC? From how you have described him pre-OW and how he is now...I am wondering if maybe he is going thru a "life transition". Not that that in any way excuses his behaviour and actions to you and your marraige.
Just curious!
M48 H53 M16 T18 S16 D13 SS30 H drops bomb PA/8-30-09 H leaves 12-30-09 D filed by H 2-10 H asks to come home 4-11 Piecing