Yep, that's why we are here to offer suggestions.. I know its hard to think right now... Been there...

You can think on it, but I don't think what you're saying is helping you unfortunately...

You want to :

1. Wake your wife up to the realities of what she's doing
2. Show her you are NOT supporting it
3. Invite your wife to participate as a family

Those ARE your goals aren't they?

Each time you say something check what you are saying to make sure its meeting your goals, or don't say it...