Upside I am arriving in CA tomorrow. I will call you this week, so we can hang out.

I see your h as depressed and until that depression lifts he won't be able to make progress.

When I look out on the horizon all I see is a field of wreckage. Do I pick this piece up and deal with it or this one first or do I just turn the other way and walk away.

It won't be easy if your h returns either. Do what feels right for you Upside. That is really all you can do at the moment.

Me 50
H 42
S 22
S 9
D 7
M 12
T 17
H moved out 8/2006
H moved home 1/2007 for 3 weeks
H moved home 5/2011 for good

"Learn from yesterday ~ Live for today ~ And hope for tomorrow"