M&H, I have to agree, the ending was absolutely perfect for me. I dealth w/crisis after crisis throughout the 25 years I was married to him. He experienced one around his mid 20's, 30's and then the 40's. The last one just took him over the edge. There is a history of mental illness on his mother's side of the family and I suspect he may have had clinical depression throughout his life, starting as a young child and growing up. It's funny now, but I always had something niggling me in the back of mind that one day he would bolt just as he did. I could never put my finger on it, but something was off kilter w/him. Now, I have a better understanding of how childhood issues can a huge role in later life.
Our marriage was a good one, definitely not over the moon, but it was a good one. We traveled, we purchased a home, drove nice cars and pretty much did whatever we wanted. Today, I still have all of that and more. I now have peace of mind, know where my money is going and just knowing that I don't have to account to anyone but the man upstairs.
My xh will never admit he screwed up on the last trip to alienville. Now, he's had absolutely no problem in apologizing for his screw ups in his 20's and 30's, but he's not gotten to the 40's annd 50's yet. By that time, I'll be in a motorized rocking chair watching the world go by.
Life will be good for you again...when you are ready to move forward and live your life to the fullest....you, too, are a survivor!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
