OK here is my story

[Resilent]

Sandi, Thank you so much for the reply. Your one of the folks I have been following. I printed out your "let go of the rope story" a few days ago. I suspect that you would tell me that my wife needs a good dose of reality. She has never really had to function on her own. I've given her nothing but love for 16 years. I don't think she knows what love is. She never saw it in her family as a child. If she wants a seperation then she should go. She took a two week bartending class when this all started because she felt that getting a job would help her find herself. As of now she has not even started looking for a job of any kind. She always has an excuse why she can't get a job yet, (I'm studying for my nurseing thing, the kids are still in school, I'm going on vacation etc.) So I plan to give her a few days then tell her that she needs to find a job. I've also been sleeping on the couch or in my sons bed since this started. That needs to stop. I need to go back to my own bed. Its like she wants everything to stay the same in her world except she wants me out of it. I said MLC because she fits all the criteria to a T. I'm a big reader so yes I've read DB more than once and a ton of other stuff to. She dosen't read at all so I feel that she is going through all this without any information that could help her. Ya know I sound like such a wimp to myself as I write this and I guess I am with my wife. Trust me that all other areas of my life I'm as far from a wimp as you can get. We were the family that everyone looked up to and admired. I still feel our relationship has a chance. To me she still shows signs that somewhere inside her she still wants it. She really is a good person she has made me a better person over the years. I fear that her past is now catching up to her. Thanks for listening