Geez, didn't know about "the rule". I must have skimmed that post too quickly. However, above in red was the perfect opp for you to say, "Sorry...can't break the rule."
the rule is for me to keep h, mil, fil, whatever il out of my thoughts for a month.
i think i really wanted to know how coach finally 'got it'. what triggered that. that way, if and when my h ever 'got it', i'd be able see it as a positive instead of focusing on the negative. i don't want to miss the signs when he 'gets it'.
i know that forrest mentioned that you were on the other side - the WAW. that you would provide a perspective from that person's POV.
for some reason, i don't see the similiarity. your h didn't stand up for you with his mother and you walked away. my h didn't stand up for me and HE walked away. you have kids that will always keep you connected. i don't. as i read coach's sitch, it felt like you didn't want the m to end. my h said that this was the only option for us. no amount of mc-ing was ever going to fix our problems. (if you go back and read my sitch, the five deciding factors that he came up with .. didn't include conflict between me and his parents. which i realize now and find very odd.) he doesn't have the backbone to face humiliation or looking stupid (dent in car, looking cheap, etc.) do you honestly believe he has the backbone to say that maybe he was acting in haste?
the difference between greek and my h is that greek knows when she's sorry and at fault.
