My game has changed from WAW to EA/PA HELP!!

[Puppy Dog Tails]

This is the EA becoming PA. Just a guess. Thinking of looking at hotels. I doubt she would book room with our name.

I tend to agree.

[Greek]

Puppy, I agree, too, but how on God's green earth could her find her now - not knowing anything about where she's going? So what should he do?
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[Puppy Dog Tails]

He could always bluff -- "I know exactly what you're doing; you must think I'm stupid and I wouldn't check. I hope it's worth it." Would make for great "infidelitus interruptus," but would subsequently hurt his ability to get more intel.

[elvencat]

Hi,CD..I've been reading your posts off and on and have a quick question for you regarding gps.. are you the one who takes care of cell phone bills or do you each have separate accounts? If you can do something on her account without her knowing, I know some companies have a feature called something like Family Locator that you can activate through the company and as long as the phone is on you can use an online service to look and see where it is whenever you want. Might be something worth checking into..

I haven't looked into it myself because (un)fortunately my H is very good about telling me where he is. And who he is with. UGH.

[CD Bear]

Pretty sure she is in town. i think I'll still take advantage of the ghost car in case I get a tip this weekend.

As i think, I remember seing a guy she has 400 "frineds" but what struck me funny is he lived in Kelowna, BC. So if I add up her last call to her aunt about going out ther and 'having a condo to stay with friends" and this weekend with a bathing, suit, etc,it may be an out of towner. Again, guessing. And paranoid.

You're idea of catching her after is solid and I'd resigned myself to that as there will be tons of stuff to look see or not.

And unavailble is the idea. Should I have NO contact or make her stew for at least an hour before I respond? Either phone or text. If she calls, I'll text back. I don'y want to "speak" with her. Not enough time to think.

[CD Bear]

We still have our premarriage cell phone accounts. It never occurred to me I would need to watch her cell ccount. Too late now.

[CD Bear]

Puppy-
I thought if I heard from her ovre the weekend I would work the word "affair' into the text.

e.g. "D is fine. We're playing at my moms. How is your birthday affair coming along?"

Alternatively, or as extra fun. "No problem. Don't want to cheat you out of your weekend time"

Any other words? Trust, loyalty, secret?

[Greek]

So I'm thinking let all calls go to voice mail and answer by text message ONLY if she asks something in the voice mail. Answer like 2 hours later if there is a question. No question - no response. So if she calls and leaves a message like "Just checking on Calla", no question, no reply. If she asks, "How is Calla", 2 hrs later text "Calla is a-ok". Be mysterious from now on. It will rattle her cage.

Do something totally FUN with your daughter today! Something that she will be still squealing about when W finally does get home: "Daddy and I did x, y, z! It was sooooo much fun, Mommy!" Let her see that life does NOT stop just b/c she would like to put you guys on ice while she fools around.

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[CD Bear]

Beautiful.
That's exactly what I intend to do.
Don't think I'll bother with the ghost car.
Losing interest in knowing right now.Emotions would be too raw.
I'm sure I'll get all I need as time goes on.
Gonna get my finances and journals in order this week.
Talk to a lawyer regarding setting myself up and protecting my interests.
Still thinking next weekend might be a good occasion to start moving some of my big stuff "to declutter the house for sale".

[CD Bear]

I think the opportunity to get hard intel later is worth delaying a bluff now, too.