My game has changed from WAW to EA/PA HELP!!

[Allen A]

CD..... Last week a cousin of mine wife left him and moved into her grandmas house.iIasked him what happened he said he did not know.I asked him what she said . she told him i love you butt im not in love with you garbage.

I told him he had to do little work and look at her cell phone bill. We found the problem she was talking to her old high school boyfreind.

The first I had him do is call her sister and expose the stich and had him ask her for advice.

well her sister confirmed that she was talking to him and they did go out for drinks a couple of times.

That was enough for us to confront other man.

When you show up with four guys and tell a man that it is not a good idea for another man to be hannging out with a married women he got the idea. We did not threten him we just stood around him and let my cousin say what he had to say.


She just moved back home last night. At the start my cousin was very emotinal she would text him wy she was gone that i love you and he didnt know what to think.

After we busted the E/A she amitted to every thing to him that he made her feel good about her self and he listened to her.She
was confused the faster you putt a stop to it the less chance she will leave.

And the ring thing my wife told me the same stuff .

VERY well done TWolf!

I bet you wish you knew all this a year ago hunh?

[twolf]

Yea he just called she is giving him a little bit of guilt thing to him tonight. That it wouldnt of happened if he just would of talked to her more.I told him that he has to take it fo a little while but start setting up boundries.

She told him she wanted to get her number changed so he wont call her anymore.

I guess she told him that she does not want me coming over to their house for a few weeks.Because she is embarrised that me and a couple other people know the whole stich. She allso told him that me and cousin shouln't talk for a few weeks.


Cousin told me tonight thanks for being spot on and sorry he was not their for me more when i went through my stich and said he understans now what hell i went through.

[CD Bear]

God, Puppy. Wish I had that info on Wednesday. May do it anyway next week. We don't have Boost up here but I'm sure I can find an equivalent with GPS. And then keep my eye on her as I wish.

Any way, I tailed her all the way to town and lost her somewhere near our old neighborhood. I felt I knew "where" I lost her and could go back and find her. To no avail. I had to drop my daughter at my sisters and couldn't find her vehicle anywhere I looked when I got back. I had even arranged for sitting tomorrow and a "ghost" car from a friend. (She's all excited about Saturday)But if I don't know where she is now, I'm not going to wreck Saturday for my D and me. It is wahat it is.

What I do know now is that, mysteriously, her wedding ring is now "in" the box but still by my vitamins in the kitchen. She packed a little suitcase rather than throw a couple things together. Oh, and for some reason, she had to tell me that "Amanda" insists I bring a bathing suit. I have no idea how she thinks all of this adds up to a believable story.

So now I’m just going to float through the weekend and spend time with D and my family. I think I’ll put my phone on “unavailable”. I don’t need any of her inane comments all weekend trying to placate me.

Interestingly, she has cousins in town from the east coast. She asked if she could take D to her mom’s for dinner Sunday. Not thinking, I said “It’s family so that’s fine” Only later did I realize Sunday is Father’s Day. I ‘m not expecting a card from her and will be surprised if she remembers to get one from D. Should I text Saturday or wait til Sunday to tell her “Fathers Day trumps dinner at moms”? Or keep Calla with me all day doing something fun and tell her she can have after 4. By the time she is done, it becomes her week as primary care.. And I’ll be strangely working late, etc all week. May even have to go out of town overnight. In fact, I need to get all my banking figured out and start compiling all my notes.
Next weekend, I also thought would be a good time to begin moving all my tools, drums, aquarium and other large personal stuff out “in preparation for selling the house; so it looks like a show home not a storage shed” A week of single mom and then signs the house is going away might do her some good.

From here on, I will ask and accept no “favors” from her. “I’ll handle it” will be my new motto.

As always, I’m looking forward to opinions and suggestions for anything I should be doing or doing differently.
Should I take my ring off?
Go dark? how if still living together?
Until I can get real proof, I can't really confront anyone.
Suggestions for me please.

Thanks everyone. I REALLY appreciate the assistance. And I guess NOW would be a good time to read the infidelity section in DB.

[Greek]

CD! Call Amanda! Call her up with some ruse like : "I want to surprise W for her birthday. Where can I find y'all today - I want to have something delivered to her."

Call Amanda!

Greek and Coach

[CD Bear]

If O knew who her last name; address or phone number, I would.
W's facebook page is gone so I can"t even search her friends for the last name.

[Greek]

How does she know Amanda? Work? Is there a mutual friend you could call? Wait - W didn't tell you WHERE they will be? She's leaving her little one without giving her whereabouts?
Greek

[CD Bear]

High school. Don't think I've ever met her.
The boundary discussion a few das ago was I need when she's leaving; when I can expect her back.
She said Amanda's but I don't know that.
She'd be on to me if I asked for the address as if I ned to get hold of her for emergency, we have cells

[CD Bear]

My latest paranoid thought is she went on EHarmony or something and the OM is finally coming to town this weekend.

[CD Bear]

This is the EA becoming PA. Just a guess. Thinking of looking at hotels. I doubt she would book room with our name.

[Greek]

You at least know what town she's in?

I don't know, though, CD. I'm not sure about you wrecking your entire weekend trying to find her. If this is a hook-up, you'll find out...somehow. She's not bullet-proof and has already said a couple of things to tip her hand. When she gets back, she'll show signs that can be read rather easily. You'll also look for her little sex-candy or whatever that was she had hidden in her truck. If it's gone, or used, you'll know.

I also think, based on what I've read here, you can expect a few phone calls from her today - checking to see if you are 'OK' and in line. Know what I mean? I would recommend NOT answering her calls. If she spins up, that may tell you something, too. I'd be dark, dark, dark. Being able to get in touch with you gives her a level of comfort. Remove that.

Greek