Anyway, I am still feeling hurt for him. I am so sorry he's in pain and choosing this unhealthy way to handle it. He's shut me out entirely because he needs to rationalize in his own head the fact that he is cheating on me. Somewhere deep inside, he remembers he loves me and we are best friends and that we were so close - until he put up his walls. She is a band aid, she is not even close to being as good as me, and she is, quite frankly, also a bit sick in the head.
Oh gosh, I remember those thoughts so well. My H's ow D'd her H and got gobs of money. She spent a LOT of it imitating the life my H and I had built together. She bought a place with more acres than I have, she built an indoor arena bigger than mine, she had my H there doing her blueprints and it is almost exactly the same design, she mimicked so much of MY life. I know that imitation is a form of flattery....hahaha!! But ya know what? my H got bored, and he got tired of the work, and that's something that ow didn't know about him. He's a bit like a butterfly that doesn't stay doing the same for very long.
MH, one little thing I suggest and maybe it's just something that I zone in on because words I choose have seemed to be a big deal with my H. Be careful about the difference between moving on vs moving forward. I always chose to move forward with my life while leaving room for my H to choose to come with me.
Live your life while you are still living. Riding the trail less traveled.
