What she's doing on her own is none of your damned business, and you don't have any right getting all pissy because she is possibly making plans through a dating site or with an OM.
You've got your own TM scenario's that you like to play around with, so there is a bit of hypocrisy there.
The thing that pisses me off about you the most is this...
You actually have a shot at one day having a restored marriage with a woman that you are clearly still in love with.
But you can't get past your hurt and betrayal long enough to give it a chance. You just HAVE to get your little dig back at her.
Then you come here and pontificate the great mysteries...
There are two camps here giving you fairly contradictory messages, maybe that's the problem. Some are telling you "To hell with her, she divorced you, don't have anything to do with her." Then the other camp, which I guess may be only me, is saying that if you can find a way through your hurt and anger at her, you might actually find that there is still a marriage to save.
It just doesn't happen all at once - which is probably what you're looking for when you start thinking positively about the two of you.
Remember the falling in love process? I mean the one BEFORE you were ever even dating. The one where you were trying to catch her eye, her attention....where you were trying to make her notice and desire you.
You're kind of in that stage when it comes to a potential future relationship.
Your problem is that when you start having happy thoughts, you want things to be the way they were the last time you were happly married.
Not going to happen.
Sigh....
So here is my official white flag...I will join the others in saying to leave the woman alone and stop facilitating these quasi-family activities.
Because you can't handle it.
Blessings,
Bill
Last edited by Bworl; 06/19/1011:17 AM.
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