Need a Plan for My Marriage

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Sandie2,

I appreciate your analysis of the actions of the WAS and LBS. It really does make sense.

I use to react, but now I just do my own thing and not worry as much. I still have some more growing and learning to to, but I have made progress.

Well, the next couple of months will be even tougher. I have to resist using the credit cards except related to my kids. I hope to receive unemployment to cushion the blow. Seriously, I will be living on peanut butter sandwiches and chicken broth. Yummy! I know I can do anything. I have to get my loan and a job soon. I need to survive and thrive during my divorce. I cannot react. I have to look at my options and alternatives. I will not be away from my kids, and W will not hold all the cards anymore. I will be okay.

It feels good to at least look for ways I can control my life again. I need that more than I need her. She is just a memory that I hope will be living her life separately from me, so I can just sleep peacefully and enjoy my life for me and the kids.

That is all I want now. It will be a nice change. I cannot wait to start.