She Say's She Want's Out Of The Marriage

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@ Steve McQueen. I can say what you wrote now and I can hand out that advice all day long - the same way it was handed out to me when I first got here.

Let me ask you this - Do you think if I was capable of "more fun to throw up the spinnaker and sail down wind?" that I would have ended up here at this board?

And if you just threw it all up in the air and went with the flow how come you're here?

I wouldn't have needed this board if I knew then what I know now. Great advice, but there aren't may people who walk into this place in shock and reeling from an atomic bomb going off in their ass who can just throw the switch and implement the proper mindset.

I'm in a totally different place now than I was then, I have thrown the spinnaker up and am sailing downwind - I'm going to court Thurs for a Temp Order of Protection my W took out with totally fabricated lies. Am I freaking out? Nope. Going with the flow and doing all the work I need to do in order to protect myself.

Just remember where these people are at when they first walk in here. Remember where you were at. I sure remember where I was at.

And I don't give a cr@p about how people 'feel' and if they're actually 'interested' in their spouse. A marriage is a marriage. To walk away from it without even attempting to revive is it completely irresponsible and selfish. And it's even more despicable when there are children (especially young children) in the mix.

There's no one here or anywhere else who is going to present a point of view that will sway me from this belief. (Physical abuse, active alcoholism or drug use doesn't count - that's a no-brainer to walk away from)