Do I need to accept that it is over for good?

[AntoniaB]

Punkin I do think this is MLC for a lot of reasons, and since he told me that he wasn't necessarily to throw in the towel till she "sacrificed so much for him by moving out on her long-term bf first" I do think the pressure is coming from her somewhat. I think he is feeling we can't work things out because he did "the unforgivable thing" that I always said was a dealbreaker, which was that "just one kiss" was cheating, and since he doubts my capacity to forgive that, he's given up on me and figured that she is his "only shot at redemption" and a second half to his life. (quotes are all his words). To me, that's all MLC. Yeah he is uhappy with us, but she is ancillary to the issue and he cannot be viewing her entirely accurately as he's been "interested/emotionally involved" with her for just a few months compared to the 23 happy (or so I thought) years with me. He still says he loves me but just isn't feeling the spark. In fact he says he wants to maintain a friendship as he loves being around me, just that he thinks we aren't right for each other anymore. How could I maintain a friendship? I've been so betrayed. And yet I love him so much. That's why it's hard to accept it's over but I also think if I don't accept it I'm setting myself up for even more pain if he never comes back.