My UFO (unbelievably fabulous observations)

[hoosiermama]

yes...sometimes the fatal flaws are obvious, sometimes very hidden, and sometimes we simply plow thru telling ourselves it doesn't matter that our needs aren't getting met, that there's no potential for them to get met in that relationship....that was me. tried not to have any.

he hid a lot--and he was good at it. still is, in many ways--except I no longer need to live in denial as I did for so long. but there was plenty he didn't hide, and I accepted, and kept lowering my threshold. I asked nothing...and I got nothing. and then when big, undeniable things happened when you can't pretend you don't have needs, and I was completely alone to deal with them...well, what did I expect, really? I was the one who took care of him, not the other way around.

yeah, I'm not really big on romance either. but I would like to feel loved, cherished even, and to feel safe to give love in return. wish I was in my 30's, knowing what I know now.