Irish,
I am sorry for all you are going through. This is the MLC drama, drama, drama. My ex finally admitted that a lot of his behavior is about "pretending". Pretending to be happy, pretending to love his life, etc...

Hanging on his every word, analyzing his lies and misperceptions will make you nuts. Just comfort your children and let them know that you will be there for them no matter what.

Me: 46 H:44
Together: 25 years
Married: 20 years
Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07
OW: EA began 2005
PA began end of 2006
3 children,20, 16, 6
ex asked for forgiveness
01/16/11