Those two are likley talking yes... I suspect OM is at least LISTENING to her sob stories if not feeding her direct text to type into the phone... He may even be typing some of the messages... Who knows...
The thing is, Don't defend yourself.. just exit the convo
"I am not going to fight... you can do do that with someone else if you like, I am tagging out..."
And you hang up or stop sending text...
YES, you do let her get to you, she's TRYING to get a response out of you... don't satisfy her... You are PROVING to her you are NOT A GROWN UP when you make 3rd grade replies... she's TESTING you to find out if you HAVE CHANGED at all...
PROVE to her you have CHANGED by BEING the ADULT in conversation... WALK AWAY..
She throws an insult, you IGNORE it and EXIT the conversation... you can exit with the text I gave you earlier.. its civil enough
Just ignore her and her Toucan sam comments... she has no right to ask about your businesses OR get in a snit when you refuse to give her the information she demands...
Ignore her outbursts... would you argue with your son like this when he misbehaves...?
Her affair and your behavior are ROOTED in the same problem : not enough impulse control.
Between the two of you, you have more impulse control, but your wife is NOT setting the bar very high now is she?
