This is a topic I don't have clarity on. My DB coach advised me to "drop the rope" and acknowledge her feelings and tell her that I accept that she doesn't want to work on the M and shift the conversation to the kids and making sure we have a plan for them post-separation. The point was to give in to her stress and make her feel like she won a major battle.
I was told that it will allow us to communicate about something that is easy for us (kids). And it buys me time. But if we start talking about how to minimize damage with the kids how does that mean that I am not leaving?? Sorry I sound so confused. I was told that it might take a S for my W to see what she is losing.
