IB, Trapt has given you some great advice. He knows what he's talking about. Plus, he is a sweetie.
I know this is tremendously difficult for you. You have had the wind knocked out of you. I know it feels like a nightmare and you just want to wake up.
I am not going to lie, you are going to have some hard days. Days when you think you can't make it through. I promise you, it is going to get better. But,you have some work to do. And the sooner you get on it, the sooner you will begin to be able to cope.
First of all, you have nothing to be ashamed of. So, you go to that game with your head held high and looking good.
You act like the competent, capable, wonderful woman you have always been. You cheer your son on and enjoy the game.
When we tell you to focus on you and your son, it is because when you take the focus off your h you start to realize some things. Once you do that, you begin to detach. Detachment comes to everyone in different timelines. I wish I did it sooner. It makes your life much more bearable.
IB, while this is a devastating thing to happen, it is also an opportunity. I know it's hard to see that now when you are so crushed, but, it is.
And you are very fortunate to have so many things in your life - your children, your job, etc.
So, think of this as a new beginning. A time to find out who you are, what makes you happy. You should never be defined by other people. Your happiness should never be contingent on other people. That's when we lose ourselves and that is not good.
I will be rooting for you tomorrow. You can do this.
