Hmama, this is so true. I had never thought of it this way, and now I see it all. That is a very true and profound statement. And, so simple. Work on your problems prior to M ... if it don't get solved, don't get married.
Sometimes, though, we are unaware of issues, of the more serious baggage. My H hid his well. But, there always was that nagging thought that he was so unemotional, not much romance in our R. I bet your XH hid a lot.
Anyway, I am so over romance. Want no part of it. I have other things to occupy myself with.
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim