If Dan ultimately marries some woman in the future, I will have to suck it up and deal. Hopefully she will be nice and good with my kids. And if he leaves the kids with her while he is out golfing or whatever, that is not my business.
However I have said from the beginning, and told this to Dan directly, the rules don't apply if he gets involved with the ow that he cheated on me with on and off the past three years.
I told him, if he gets involved with her to the extent that she comes around my kids, I WILL tell the kids that he cheated on me with her. Immature, maybe. But I will not be able to interact with her in the same way that I would with someone new who was not involved in the breakup of our marriage.
I realize that by telling the kids I will make it awkward for them when they are with him/ow but that is a consequence for his actions.If they are mean to her, that isn't my problem. However I have to also be prepared for the possiblity that they might really like her and then I need to just let it go so that they don't feel they have to choose.
This is all speculative bc I have no idea if he still sees her or not. Last I knew was when he emailed us both and told her to go seek out someone else because he could not be with her in 'real life', could not have a future with her, have her son living at his house when his own son didn't even get to live there all the time, etc...
But anyway, just saying it would depend whether it was THE ow or just a new person down the road.
