Hi Gypsy! Thank you for your advice, but I am not trying to stop the divorce. If this is what he wants, so be it. He is moving in "officially" with her and her child so it's the end.

I am squared away financially and with custody. He is being more than generous in the financial aspect. (from a legal point of view).

I have no hope for reconciliation and I can even waive the 90 days and have this divorce finalized in September instead of November if I wanted to. So am looking into that.

At this point, just trying to adjust and deal with my emotions and be able to vent to someone who won't just say "you're better off without him! don't worry you'll be fine!" you know? You folks here can say "I know where you are at and understand why you don't know what to do with the ring." etc.


I need to get busy on others' threads so I can learn from you all!

me,34
exH,34
S,16 months
S:3/31/09-left for OW
started DBing 10/09
d final: sometime 10/10
current:
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1
met in 2004