WAW EA told her to leave

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The following morning I got a tm from her the next morning saying thank you for that, that I had really gone out of my way on that one. A plus I guess?

Sounds like the right move at the right time. But but but...don't try to recreate that. Just let it be what it was - a close moment for both of you, mutual. She'll ask if she wants the foot rub again - and you might be able to drop what you're doing to do it - or you might be too busy.

The next day was IC for me – he really pushed the pursue thing a bit more than I cared for (flowers, cards, notes, peck on the check etc) to show her that I stilled cared for her, so not too sure on that and have NOT moved on any of it - just quite different than my DB instincts have taught me.

Nope - that's pursuit and I don't recommend it.

I also bought concert tickets for my birthday next month – our favorite group the Beach Boys, and naturally I want her to go but not sure if that would be way over the top at this point – I can sit on them for a while – his advice was to invite her right away and give her the next 30 days or so to accept or not – just not sure really again here!

Dave to W: "I bought tickets to the Beach Boys for such and such date. Wanna come along?" If she says yes - woo hoo. Concerts are a great date (Coach and I went to two of them while we were testing the waters about getting back together!). If she says no - well, I'm sure you have a friend or sib or maybe even one of your kids that will go and LOVE IT!

That afternoon I see there's a photo of her on her bike alone on the hall table where I keep my wallet, keys etc. you know all the stuff you grab before heading off to work - a friend of hers took it sometime ago and gave it to her on her ride last night. I'm pretty sure she obviously put it there for me to see and ask about(ok at least 50% sure!), so I asked her about it, told her it was a nice photo and if I could have it for my office. She said sure take it and it's on my desk now - grain of salt there but I thought it was a positive gesture for both of us?

I think so, too. It shows you care for her and the pic represents something she really cares about - biking.

Last night was OK, had to whip up dinner again for everyone, no big deal as her mother had to have an emergency eye procedure late afternoon - she came over for dinner as well - another fine gourmet effort by me I must say - hell I like to eat well too! I knew she had been running the kids and her mom all day, so I took the initiative to do all the clean up as well - no big deal but by the time 9pm rolled around I was beat! I went to bed without her and no TV to wind down with - another 180 - she came up about 10 minutes later and she did ask why I didn't do the TV thing anymore - I just said I do sometimes -rolled over and went to sleep, she was upset about that - whether it was going to bed without her, no TV as usual or what I have no idea.

You did all that - took care of business - nice! But it wore you out so you turned in early. Nothing wrong with that. Of interest is that she kinda sorta missed you being there with her watching tv. Good for her to know she misses you sometimes.

No gym class for her this morning which is good - another small verification the she's not seeing the OM as it's his class to teach, she also had to bail on a ride Wed night because he was there as well - she went on a different ride with another group. I was supposed to go and meet them all after my MTB ride, but kid duties got in the way and I couldn't make it. She didn't say anything about me not making it to dinner with all of them, but I am an outsider with that crowd - no big deal to me though.

So she's making an effort to steer clear. Check mark in her column.

Be consistent. You're doing fine work. Remember - your spirits stay up b/c you are taking care of you - GAL! She's noticing, and that's a plus - but it's not about her, is it. It's about Dave being a better Dave.
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