I think I have validated her concerns over the last 5 months. In the beginning, she asked me if I thought she was just crazy. Maybe I should have said yes. I told her that she made some valid points and that I would work on the things she was concerned about. She tells people I have made a 180 and am doing everything she asked, but she can't help the way she feels. The I got too desperate, needy and clingy. I read all the books. Say nice things, compliments, buy gifts, flowers, go on dates again, be close to her. Then I was smothering her. But I couldn't help it. I loved her so much I couldn't stand the thought of being without her.
Even the OM told his W that I have really stepped-up and she just isn't responding to me.
I do like your apology statement above, a lot, but she isn't going to leave and there is no way for me to make her, is there? I suppose I could request it at the temporary hearing, but she had her atty take that same request of me out of the paperwork. I am going to try the "just be gone" advice and continue to be nice when I am around. No more divorce talk, but it did get emotional this am when talking about how/what to tell the kids.
Maybe I just need to take some deep breaths and mellow-out a little. Or find a little strange tonight!
