Cat - you are absolutely right. I hoped that having no contact with me would make him miss me, like I missed him. No such luck. And that leaves me with the unanswerable question "How come I hurt so bad and he doesn't" You are right about the military, too. We were months away from our 'dream retirement' and he just flipped out. I'd been trying to get him to seek counseling for months, if not years.
Oh, Crap! The moment just arrived. I got a call from a psychologist that my husband had been referred to by the military, and she hadn't received a call from him. I called him to give him the message. He called me back. We spoke and I gave him the message, He asked if anyone had looked at the house yet. We talked briefly about that. He asked if we were going to be able to settle out of court on this, and I responded that I wasn't able to talk about a divorce with him while the OW was in the picture. He changed the subject and said he was being sent out to Ft.Sill for processing out of the Army.He asked if I was working and did I have any money. I told him I was okay. He asked again, did I have any money. I again told him I was okay. First contact in 5 weeks.
Don't know how I feel now, I'm shaking from hearing his voice after so long a time. Tearing up.
